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Face Your Fears

A number of my mentors have said to do something that scares you on a daily basis (or at least regularly). I’m certainly not an adrenaline junkie, although I do enjoy pushing my own boundaries every now and then. I find it invigorating to challenge what I believe is possible for me, especially when it helps me to realize that I’m capable of so much more than I often believe.

I recently had an opportunity to challenge those beliefs once again. I’m generally good with heights, as long as I’m on something sturdy – not like the scaffolds my Dad used to send me up on when I was younger when I was helping him build houses. As you’ll see in the video above, I recently climbed up to a little platform 30 feet above the ground and stepped off to experience a free fall. It wasn’t really a free fall, considering I had a climbers harness on that was attached to a cable designed to slow me down before I crumpled to the ground. It did take a fair bit of courage to actually walk to the edge and step off though. From the ground it looked fairly harmless – from the platform looking down was a whole other story though.

I’m now looking for my next adventure to step out of my comfort zone. I recognize that everything I want that I don’t currently have is outside of my comfort zone, and one of the best ways to expand that zone is to do something that scares me a little bit. I don’t suggest taking unneccessary risks, putting your health and wellbeing in danger, or doing anything illegal – just looking for ways to expand your belief in what you think is possible. Who knows what you can accomplish after you realize you’re actually capable of more than what your fears tell you is possible.

Leave me a comment below, and tell me what you have done, or will do to challenge yourself. Who knows, maybe you’ll inspire me to try something new also.

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Design Your Life

A mentor of mine once said “Stop DESCRIBING your life, and start DESIGNING it!”

Those were powerful words that really hit home for me. You see, I’ll bet i’m not much different than you and can find yself in the middle of a pity party before I know it. You know, it’s like those times your day got off to a terrible start and the first chance you get you’re compelled to share your experience with someone else. Can you believe it took me an hour to get here this morning! And then, I finally get here and some jerk is in my parking spot! This whole tirade can carry on and on, and in most cases, what does the other person say in response? You think that’s bad – wait till you hear about what happened to me!

That’s exactly what I mean when I said describing your life. Have you had similar experiences?

My goal today is to persuade you to see that by designing your life rather than describing it, you’ll be able to live happier, healthier and more fulfilled days.

Have you ever wondered what the catalyst or spark is for all of your feelings, actions and results? It’s actually your thoughts. There’s a reason 2 people can experience the exact same event and have 2 completely different reactions to it, and it’s because of the thoughts they attach to it.

Albert Einstein once said the most important question a person can ask is “Is this a friendly universe?” My take on this is that we all have a choice in how we perceive the events and circumstances we face. Another of my mentors Jack Canfield describes himself as a Reverse Paranoid believing that the world is plotting to do him GOOD!

Over the past decade or so I’ve invested a large amount of my time and money into my own self education. In that time I’ve discovered 2 simple ways to more consciously design my life.

The first key is to have goals. Without clearly defined goals you are destined to wander aimlessly through life, or at best play a role in helping fulfilling someone else’s goals and dreams.

In numerous studies, and indeed in my own life, the simple act of putting goals down on paper dramatically increases the likelihood of them being achieved. Tony Robbins says that people will overestimate what they can accomplish in a year, but grossly underestimate what they can accomplish in a decade. So write your goals down, and then make continual small progress towards their achievement.

The second key to designing your life is to feed your mind. If you’ll treat your mind the way you should treat your stomach and give it the right fuel it’ll reward you tenfold. One of the best analogies I’ve ever heard to help illustrate this point came from another of my mentors, Raymond Aaron. He said to think of your mind like a fertile patch of soil. If you want that soil to produce a beautiful flower garden what must you do? You have to plant seeds, and then nurture them with water, fertilizer and ample sunlight. Now let me ask you a question. If you don’t plant seeds and nurture them, is it true that the soil will remain in it’s original state? Anyone who’s ever done any gardening knows that the answer is absolutely not. If you aren’t proactive and look after that plot of soil, before you know it, it’ll be an overgrown patch of weeds. Your mind behaves in much the same way.

That’s why you must continually feed your mind with positive, stimulating, uplifting, thought provoking materials. The 3 best ways I’ve found to do this are:
1) Seek out and surround yourself with positive people
2) Turn your vehicle into a university on wheels. Listen to educational audio programs instead of Talk Radio and Top 40
3) Read more, and watch TV less

An interesting survey conducted in 2003 revealed that one third of high school graduates will never read another book again in their lifetimes! On the flip side, nearly every successful person I’ve studied or met has been a voracious reader.

In closing, I’d like to persuade you to take a more active role in designing your life. If you have goals for this lifetime, and I’m quite sure you do, I want you to take some time in the next 24-48 hours and write down a list of 10 goals you’d like to accomplish in the next 3 years or less.

Second, I want you to carve out a few minutes a week to read a book that can support you in achieving those goals. It can be a biography, a personal development related book, or just a book on a subject that interests you. Did you know that by reading just 10 pages a day, you’ll complete 10-15 entire books in one year. That’s a far cry better than never reading another book again. Learn from the materials you read, and discover ways to implement the lessons in your own life.

It is my wish that from this day forward you seek to DESIGN YOUR LIFE instead of simply describing it!

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Empower Your Mind To Success

Think and Grow RichMost people don’t realize that an empowered mind is an amazing asset. Having an empowered mind will determine our circumstances, our opportunities, our health, our happiness, our success level and financial independence. It is essential in learning to achieve our highest potential so that we can become great leaders and empower others to be successful.

People tend to forget about their dreams, not because they couldn’t achieve them, but because of the influence of parents, teachers and other authoritative people telling what one can or cannot do.

You have likely heard of the book ‘Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill, or have read it. When one of my mentors introduced me to this book, my first thought was how can one “think… and grow rich”? After reading it a couple of times, one powerful lesson I gained from this book, is that with a clear desire and a concrete game plan, anyone can be successful, because that burning desire gives such an inspiration to follow one’s dreams and achieve higher living and fulfillment.

I realized how much our mind influences what we do and impacts everything else. Our thoughts are more powerful than we truly think they are. With the right mindset, our thoughts can stimulate creativity and belief in abundance and prosperity. Napolean Hill said: “Whatever the mind can conceive and then believe it can achieve.” Very powerful words.

I would bet that there is not a single mentor or successful person that would not agree.

This classic book, written so many years ago, is filled with so many simple messages, that I intend to read it over and over. I hope that you will too. If you do not have this book, don’t get it at the library, buy a copy and read it. You’ll quickly understand why to reread this valuable book. To your success…

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Garbage In, Garbage Out Is A Lie!

I’m sure you’ve heard the expression “garbage in, garbage out”. I know that was a common expression used during my days as a structural designer in reference to some of the plans that came into our office. It was hard for us to produce accurate working drawings for the trades people to use, when the work given to us was of very poor quality. In that situation, I guess this phrase held true.

When it comes to your mind though, I think this expression is misleading and potentially harmful. This concept was really driven home for me about 2 weeks ago when I was listening to one of my mentors Nido Qubein at a conference. He said “garbage in, garbage stays, garbage gets pregnant and has babies!” Most of the people in the audience got quite a laugh out of that, but I wonder how many caught the truth in it. I think the point he was making is that we have to be very careful about what we let into our consciousness, and more importantly what becomes our beliefs in our sub-conscious.

Beliefs are simply assumptions and thoughts we hold to be true. This doesn’t mean that it neccessarily is true, just true for you. That is why it is so important to be aware and vigilant about what you allow into your mind. If you fill your mind with negative, disempowering thoughts and feelings you’ll begin to believe that as your own reality. If however, you fill your mind with supportive, encouraging and empowering thoughts and feelings, what could possibly hold you back?

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Weeds In The Garden Of Your Mind

Weeds In The Garden Of Your MindI read an interesting post from one of my mentors Dr. John Demartini on Facebook this morning. “If you don’t plant flowers in the garden of your mind, you’ll forever pull weeds. Likewise, if you don’t fill your day with high priority thoughts and actions, it will get filled with low priority thoughts and actions. At the start of each day, it is wise to visualize yourself sowing the seeds of what you would love to reap, then commit to sowing whatever you’d most love. Review your day and look for the link between what you sowed and what you reaped. It is impossible to break the Golden rule of cause and effect; no matter what, you reap what you sow and what you focus on, grows. Every time a weed is pulled, the flowers become more visible.”

It reminded me of a powerful analogy that I learned a few years ago from another of my mentors. Raymond Aaron was leading a workshop and was explaining why it’s important to think of your mind like a patch of fertile soil. Imagine for a second that you have a nice patch of rich fertile black soil in your back yard. If you do nothing with that soil, how long before you’ll notice the first weeds start to sprout up? You see, if you do nothing with this fertile soil, it won’t remain an empty patch – it’ll actually grow weeds all on it’s own. If however, you cultivate that soil, and plant flowers in it, before you know it you’ll be harvesting a crop of beautiful blossoms. You’ll likely need to remove the odd weed that springs up, but you know that to have the most beautiful garden, you’ll have to tend to a few weeds here and there, and they’re easy to remove if you catch them before they get established.

What I’d like you to do is recognize that your mind is much like that rich, fertile soil. If you don’t plant beautiful flowers (positive thoughts, goals, desires, questions that challenge you to find answers), you won’t end up with a blank slate, but rather an overgrown weed patch (negative thoughts, doubt, worry, anxiety, living in the past, fear etc). You must treat your mind like the fertile ground it is, and plant, nurture and water what it is you want to create.

A mind is a terrible thing to waste! Use yours to it’s fullest potential, and be quick to remove the weeds that may creep in.

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The 80/20 Rule – Pareto Principle

Perhaps you don’t know this commonly cited rule by the name Pareto principle, or the law of the vital few, or even the principle of factor sparsity, but I’ll guarantee you’ve heard of the 80/20 rule. This common “rule of thumb” generally refers to business applications where 80% of your results come from 20% of your efforts, or 80% of your sales come from 20% of your customers etc.

This principle is named after Vilfredo Pareto, an Italian economist who discovered in the early 1900′s that 80% of the land in Italy was owned by 20% of the population. Since then, it’s been correlated to so many things that it’s simply known as the 80/20 rule.

What I want to emphasize though, is how to leverage the 80/20 rule. If you know that 20% of your efforts produce 80% of your income wouldn’t you want to figure out how to do more of that 20%? Let’s say your regular income is $5,000/month, and you can attribute that almost entirely to the time you spend giving sales presentations, then it stands to reason if you do more presentations, your income should go up proportionately. I know this is something I work on improving all the time. It’s so easy to get caught up in the “busy” work, that takes me away from the productive work that gets the results.

We all have the same number of hours in a day, and getting in the habit of doing our most productive work first is a great way to ensure results continue to improve. To create more time for your most productive activities find ways to delegate your other non essential tasks to others. Hire a virtual assistant to filter through your email, take calls, do research or a myriad of other routine tasks that take you away from what you do best.

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A Goal Without A Plan Is Simply A Wish

A few years ago I got in the habit of writing out my goals. One program I followed from one of my early mentors Raymond Aaron had me writing out goals in 6 different areas of my life each month. The beauty of this program was that it set achievable targets for me to focus on as well as grander goals to stretch and reach for.

Within a couple of months I had completely transformed my life. I had bought 2 more investment properties. I had arranged to take some parental leave (something I had talked about doing with our first child). I had set in motion a plan to leave my regular job so I could focus on doing things better aligned with my passions.

Here’s the point I want to emphasize though. All of those things were goals previously. What I hadn’t done in the past was put them in writing and get to work on how to accomplish them though. They were wishes. It doesn’t matter how much you “talk” about doing something. If you don’t define a plan to achieve it, how’s it ever going to come to fruition? One of the best, and simplest steps you can take is simply to put it in writing. This takes it out of your imagination and translates it into a physical form on the paper. Just this act alone has proven to drastically increase your rate of success. Do yourself a favour and make goal setting a regular and frequent activity. Put them in writing, and then get to work on making them come true.

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Accountability Is Key

Do you have an accountability partner? Someone who you check in with regularly to keep on track and to ensure you get done what you say you’re going to do. It could be a coach or mentor, but often is just someone of like-mind who doesn’t allow you to create excuses, and in turn you do the same for them.

Without accountability to yourself and others, is it possible to lead a successful life? I don’t personally believe you can. Anyone I know who has achieved a high level of success not only has a high level of accountability to themselves but they create an environment that keeps them on track even when they start to slip up. An accountability partner that you check in with once a week, or more frequently if you choose, can truly help you to get done all that you set out to do.

I don’t know about you, but when I tell someone else I’m going to do something I’m far more likely to get it done. The fact that I’ve told someone else about my goal gives me the drive to see it through so I don’t let them down. It’s one thing not to complete a task that I wanted to get done, and it’s an entirely different level when I’ve made that commitment to someone else. It’s by continually being accountable to myself and others that I build trust, and trust is an essential element if you ever want to be successful in life.

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